(Guest Post & Book Spotlight) Linda Ferguson/ Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand

Today I am honored to have Linda Ferguson stop by to guest post about her book Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand. I will be reviewing her book next week (June 19th) on the blog so be sure to stop by and check out my review.

I want to thank Linda for taking the time out of her very busy touring schedule to sit down and do this for me  and a huge thank you to Dorothy from Pump Up Your Book for arranging this and for being so accomadating.

Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand- Embracing Change

Sometimes we got those cosmic nudges, if not a 2X4 slap across the face, to change. Sometimes what appears on the surface to be bad news, may in the end result in a positive change. Next time you are challenged with a change, stop to ask how the change will serve a higher purpose. Will the change shift you to a better place? The 2X4 slap and subsequent change may be a blessing in disguise.

I faced such a cosmic slap a few times, the hardest ones coming as I lost a job and went through a divorce. Though I didn’t seek out either change, as I came out the other side, I could see that the changes were necessary to get me to a new and better place. I dealt with some deeply buried wounds, cleared some self-limiting beliefs, and found new faith and strength I could never imagined having.

Now I no longer fear change or uncertainty because I know that what I’m going through will get me to a better place.

Depending on how ready you are for change, how much you think the change will help you, and how successful you feel you’ll be making the change, you may welcome or avoid change.

If you intentionally want to change some aspect in your life, you can follow some concrete steps to navigate through the change. I’ve developed a process called Transformational EmpowermentTM to support people making change. These ideas came from working with my coaching clients and my workshops over the last six years. The Transformational Empowerment process uses some basic spiritual principles to support you in making profound and lasting changes.

If you are looking to make a job or life change, and truly want the change to stick, I invite you to use these steps for Transformational Empowerment. Visit my website (www.lindajferguson.com) to receive a free series of handouts and videos that will help you in your change process. You’ll receive a series of emails where I’ll share stories that describe how each of the steps work.

Try out the ideas of Transformational Empowerment and you’ll be well on your way to create a significant life shift, to reach your goals, or to fulfill your heart’s desire.

Embrace the journey. The change may do you good.

Now available!! Linda’s new book, “Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand” – CLICK HERE TO ORDER .

Visit Linda’s website- www.lindajferguson.com to receive valuable handouts and videos to support your personal growth and professional development.

About The Book
Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand provides insightful stories and ideas to support your spiritual journey and help you answer your soul’s calling. Inside you’ll read how to step fully into who you are as an awakened soul being. You’ll read ways to apply spiritual principles for daily challenges and stressors of relationships, finances, work, or family. You’ll learn how to connect with the joy and beauty of who you are as a spiritual being through your various human experiences.

You’ll learn ways to shift how you experience your world using the affirmations, meditations, and visualizations provided in each chapter. A new process called Transformational Empowerment™ shows seven key steps for manifesting your heart’s desire and fulfilling your soul contracts.

You’ve already signed up to be an agent for spiritual transformation, in your own life and in the world. Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand is a spiritual guidebook to help you navigate through your daily stresses, spiritual tests, and challenging relationships. It also is a celebration of the joy you are here to experience as a conscious co-creator. Each chapter ends with concrete, meaningful exercises for you to use immediately!

About The Author
Dr. Linda J. Ferguson is an author, speaker, coach, and seminar leader to support people leading a joyful and awakened spiritual life. Linda’s website, www.lindajferguson.com , contains videos, meditations, affirmations, and other useful resources for spiritual growth and personal development. Readers find inspiring and informative ideas in Linda’s blog to enrich their spirituality for everyday living- www.lindajferguson.com/blog/ .

Dr. Ferguson is author of two books “The Path for Greatness – Work as Spiritual Service” and “Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand- Awakening Soul Consciousness for the New Millennium“. Readers find the exercises at the end of every chapter valuable and practical. They can apply the ideas immediately in their life and see results. Linda has conducted three national book tours, presented at national conferences, and conducted worship services to inspired and appreciative audiences. Linda also leads Shamanic Journeys, spiritual study groups, and retreats for people who want to dive deeper into the insights and ideas offered in her books on spiritual growth and transformation.

Linda has developed a seven step process of Transformational EmpowermentTM, for personal mastery. She developed this powerful process of manifesting and creating positive life changes from her own life experiences, her work with her coaching clients, and her study of mysticism.

She uses the spiritual principles found in her Transformational EmpowermentTM process in her coaching practice so that her clients more effectively move through their important life changes. Her coaching provides a structured and consistent venue so that people can make positive changes in their life easefully and confidently.

Linda has been on radio interviews and has featured articles in Interbeing, a journal of personal and professional mastery. She also writes a weekly blog to support people’s desire to integrate their spiritual life with their professional life- www.managementhelp.org/blogs/spirituality/

Dr. Ferguson earned her Ph.D. from Indiana University (I.U.-Bloomington) in Organizational Behavior with a Masters also from I.U. studying Social Psychology. She has taught undergraduate and graduate courses in psychology and management. Linda did her coach training in 2004 from Coach Training Alliance, completed her certification in Team Coaching, and has CCE credits from International Coach Federation (ICF).

In 1994 she traveled abroad for six months to Asia, Australia, Israel, and Europe before moving to Virginia where she currently lives. Her personal spiritual practice includes daily prayer and meditation, Sufi Dances of Universal Peace, Integral Yoga, Native American Sweat Lodges and other Earth-based ceremonies.

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(Tour & Guest Post) Carolyn Wolfe author of The Unhappy Little Dragon

About the book:
This is the tale of a little Dragon who has a big problem, he cannot control his fire!

After a major mishap, he runs away into the forest and has a wonderful adventure where he meets new friends, learns that every creature has a unique gift, and also finds out the special way in which he can use his own remarkable gift of fire.

About the author:
Carolyn Wolfe is a free lance writer, poet, and author of six books including her

collections of poetry, short stories and bedtime stories for children. In this, her sixth book, “The Unhappy Little Dragon, Lessons Learned” she reveals the journey of Happy, The Unhappy Little Dragon, who, while trying to understand how to master his uncontrollable gift of fire, has an exciting adventure in the woods. His forest friends help him understand his gift and that he really is a very special dragon indeed! Ms. Wolfe lives in the Shenandoah Valley with her Photographer, husband Scott, and her houseful of animal companions.

Today I am honored to have Carolyn Wolfe, author of The Unhappy Little Dragon stop by for a guest post. My review will be posted here this morning so please come back and check it out.

I want to thank Carolyn for taking the time out of her busy schedule to do this for me and a huge thank you to Rebecca from Pump Up Your Promo for arranging this.

I am the last stop on the tour but if you want to see where she has been please CLICK THIS and it will take you to her tour page.

Seven Reasons Why One Should Read The Unhappy Little Dragon Lessons Learned

The first reason to read my Children’s book The Unhappy Little Dragon, Lessons Learned, is entirely for the fun of it. It is an entertaining story full of engaging characters that I think children will enjoy reading.

The second reason to read my children’s book is for the message; that challenges can be overcome and with a little advice and insight from your friends, children can see how truly unique and special their own gifts are! Friends can be the best teachers of all!

The third reason to read my book is for the beautiful pictures in it by Leslie Mathis! She is a wonderful artist who really captures the energy and spirit of the characters in her colorful images.

The fourth reason to read my book is that it is an adventure story, a journey into the woods where kids can meet some wonderful friends!

The fifth reason is that readers can interact with the book. The last few pages of the book include a list of vocabulary words that were used in the story, and what they mean. There is also a place to write about the reader’s own special gifts.

The sixth reason to read this story, is to inspire young readers to look at themselves and their challenges differently and know that they are special and inside every problem area, there is something to learn about yourself, and that each one of us is given a special gift, that is uniquely yours!

The seventh reason is to learn about giving back to the community. The characters in my book all use their talents to help each other and their community. In the end, Happy the dragon learns that he too has something very special that he can do to help his fellow creatures!

Shelley asked, looking at Happy expectantly.

Shelley The Turtle said,”Let me ask you something son, when you practice your fire burning skills-what do you tell yourself?”

“Tell myself? What do you mean?” asked Happy not understanding what his new friend was getting at.

Shelley answered, “Well, maybe I should ask instead, how do you feel when you practice holding in your flame?

“Oh that! I feel scared, so scared that I will fail and burn everything up!” Happy answered sadly.

“Well now, I have a suggestion for you. Try feeling like you will not burn everything up. Instead tell yourself you will succeed in keeping your fire to yourself!” Shelley told him.

“But I am so scared. I really don’t think I can tell myself that I won’t burn everything up when I know I will!”

Happy argued in a worried little voice.

Shelley looked at Happy’s very unhappy face and said,”I have news for you Happy, and I want you to listen to me now!”

Then Shelley continued to explain.

“Dragons aren’t the only ones who have special gifts, Happy, no, no! All of the animals were given a special gift of one kind or another. All of us had to learn how to use it wisely, just like you. You sort of have to grow into your gift, like growing up! That’s why the animals need a teacher.

Can you guess what my special gift is?” Shelley asked, expectantly.

Happy didn’t know the answer so he shook his head and just kept quiet.

“Why Happy, I am a teacher!” Shelley said proudly.
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(Tour) A Boy Called Duct Tape

Title: A Boy Called Duct Tape
Author: Christopher Cloud
Pub Date: April 2012
Pages: 188
Publisher: CreateSpace

About the Book:
Pablo Perez is a 12-year-old poor kid without much going for him. His classmates have dubbed him “Duct Tape” because his tattered discount-store sneakers are held together with…you guessed it, duct tape. He can’t escape the bullying.

Pablo’s luck, however, changes after he finds a $20 gold coin while swimming in a river near his home. Pablo later buys a $1 treasure map at the county fair. The map shows the route to the “lost treasure” of Jesse James. Pablo can’t help but wonder: Is there a link between the map and the gold coin? He is determined to find out, and he, his 9-year-old sister and 13-year-old cousin hire an ill-natured cave guide, and begin a treacherous underground adventure in search of treasure.

About the author:
Christopher Cloud admits he came to literature late in life. “I was in my 60s before I developed a real interest in writing fiction,” he said. A Boy Called Duct Tape is Cloud’s debut middle-grade novel. It is a first-person account of three Latino children searching for the “lost treasure” of Jesse James.

Cloud began writing children’s fiction after a long career in journalism and public relations. He graduated from the University of Missouri in 1967 with a degree in journalism. He has worked as a reporter, editor, and columnist for newspapers in Texas, California, and Missouri. His work has appeared in many national publications, including Time Magazine.

Employed by Sun Oil Company, Philadelphia, as public relations executive and later he operated his own PR agency. He created the board game Sixth Sense in 2002 and the game sold at independent bookstores nationwide.

Cloud said his next project is a young-adult novel. “I have written the first draft of a story I’m calling 16 And In Love,” Cloud said. “This story—like A Boy Called Duct Tape—is multicultural.”

Cloud lives in Joplin, Missouri.

Check back for my review later this morning.

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(Review & Tour) The Adventures of Baby Jaimie/Baby Jaimie Gets Stage Fright

Title:The Adventures of Baby Jaimie/Baby Jaimie gets stage Fright
Author: Jaimie Hope
Pages: 24
Pub Date: November 2011
Publisher: Create Space

Source: I received a copy of this book for my honest and sincere review and for my participation on the book tour.

About the book:

Baby Jaimie is in her first year of school. She has made a lot of friends and learned a lot of things. Now she will learn what it means to be a team player when she is in her very first play. Follow Baby Jaimie as she learns the lesson, there are no small parts, only small actors.

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Baby Jaimie is in kindergarten and one day her teacher (Mrs Johnson) comes in and tells the kids they will be doing a play. The fun part is the kids get to choose which they want to do and its a tie between Little Red Riding Hood and The Three Little Pigs. Which will they choose?

Jaimie is excited about doing the play but her bubble is quickly burst when her sister, Kelly makes fun of her and basically scares her about doing the play saying things such as stage fright and forgetting lines. When she goes to school the next day what her sister said is in her head and she messes up. She is sad and disappointed.

Jaimie did an excellent job because she hit every emotion on the head. I mean who has faked an illness so they couldn’t go to school on the day of a play or presentation? I know I certainly did.

Now will Jaimie realize her mistake in lying to her mother? While she manage to pull the play off without a hitch? Will she over come her stage fright?

This is a perfect book to read to children because it teaches them that there is nothing to be afraid of, being scared is a normal reaction and that if you try your best it will be okay and honestly as a parent you only want your child to try their best.

I look forward to sharing this with the kids in the school library.

About the author:
Jaimie Hope was born in New York and it was in high school, when she joined the newspaper staff and decided she wanted to be a writer. Jamie received her Associates degree in 1999. Then she moved to Florida where she was an active volunteer in the local historical society and remained active in the arts. In 2005 Jaimie wrote her first children’s book, The Adventures of Baby Jaimie, published in 2006 and Who Says You Can”t Go Home? in 2008. The Adventures of Baby Jaimie: Baby Jaimie Goes to School in 2010. Her Autobiography, Roll With It followed by the third volume in her children’s series, The Adventures of Baby Jaimie: Baby Jaimie Gets Stage Fright, and her first Paranormal Romance, When You Come Back To Me Again were released in 2011.

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(Guest Post) Caroline Alethia

Today I am happy to be on the virtual book tour for Plant Teacher by Caroline Alethia.  I am happy to showcase her book and have Caroline stop by for a guest post.

ABOUT THE BOOK

Hailed by Huffington Post contributor Joel Hirst as a compelling and powerful story, Plant Teacher begins in 1972 when a hippie in Oakland, California flushes a syringe of LSD down a toilet. Thirty-five years later, the wayward drug paraphernalia has found its final resting place in Los Yungas, Bolivia, the umbilical cord between the Andes and Amazonia.

Enter into this picture two young Americans, Cheryl Lewis, trying to forge her future in La Paz and Martin Banzer, trying to come to terms with his past in the same city. The two form an unlikely friendship against the backdrop of a country teetering at the brink of dictatorship and revolution.

Bolivia sparks the taste for adventure in both young people and Martin finds himself experimenting with indigenous hallucinogenic plants while Cheryl flits from one personal relationship to another. Meanwhile, the syringe buried in the silt in a marsh in Los Yungas will shape their destinies more than either could anticipate or desire.

Plant Teacher takes its readers on a fast-paced tour from the hippie excesses of Oakland, to the great streams of the Pacific Ocean and to the countryside, cities, natural wonders and ancient ruins of Bolivia. It reveals­ the mundane and the magical, and, along the way, readers glimpse the lives of everyday Bolivians struggling to establish equanimity or merely eke out a living during drastic political crisis.

The normal, the unusual, and the paranormal in Plant Teacher

By Caroline Alethia

Cindy, thank you so much for inviting me to your web space.

People have asked me about the novel Plant Teacher and how I made Bolivia seem so real. I was fortunate to live in this remote South American country from 2007 to 2008 when President Evo Morales was consolidating his grasp on power. I say that I was “fortunate” because even though the country was going through an upheaval, I think it is an honor and a responsibility to witness what the Chinese proverbially describe as “interesting” times.

Imagine a country crippled by hunger strikes. The main city plazas are filled with tents, packed with people patiently waiting in hammocks and slowly sipping nothing but water. They read magazines and newspapers. Television cameras have sprung up at every corner. Ambulances wait at the end of the streets.

And what do you do? Because you are not Bolivian and you are not a member of the media, you walk through this spectacle, station yourself at your favorite table at your favorite café, and order a cappuccino and read the news. Inside the café, dozens of other people nibble on cakes and sip their drinks and read and carry on their lives as if nothing is going on outside.

In the evenings, you sit with your landlord and the other guests at your pensión (guest house) while the guests drink beers mixed with sodas and casually talk about the possibility of a civil war. At night, demonstrators crowd the streets with banners and torches and they look ominous. Unlike the passive civil disobedience that is taught in this country, protestors let off firecrackers and the streets, at night, sound as if they are filled with gunshots.

In our pensión courtyard, we continue with our drinks and maybe take a brief dip in the pool.

There is one resounding lesson I learned during my time in Bolivia: Human beings need normalcy. When times are not normal, people will go on as if life is normal—visiting their favorite coffee shops, following their regular routines—to the extent that circumstances allow. The prospect of dictatorship and civil war are so big, that many people can only partially grasp these concepts. They sweep their front doorsteps; they do their laundry; they show up at work.

Martin Banzer, in Plant Teacher, has a South American bad adventure of a different kind. After experimenting with an indigenous hallucinogenic drug, caapi, he must contend with the after-effects of his drug experience. He must teach his English classes and chat with his friends and read emails from his family while he is having flashbacks. While experiencing the paranormal, Martin must appear to be normal.

I wrote Martin’s character and I set him in Bolivia because, despite my cappuccinos and my dips in the pool, I realized I had witnessed a story that I was required to tell. As a country slowly loses its freedom with one nondemocratic act followed by another, and as the world abroad simply ignores or doesn’t understand, the country—my host country, Bolivia—cries for you to tell her story.

Plant Teacher is the story of Martin, trying to be normal, and of Bolivia, struggling in times that should never be considered normal. The story of Bolivia continues. People have been arrested. People have died. The machinery of the Morales regime moves steadily forward. I hope that Plant Teacher entertains, but I also hope that this novel about troubled times reminds us in the North of just how precious and precarious democracy can be.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Caroline Alethia is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in newspapers, magazines, on radio and in web outlets. Her words have reached audiences on six continents. She lived in Bolivia and was a witness to many of the events described in Plant Teacher.

You can visit her website at www.plantteacherthebook.net.

Thanks so much Caroline for taking the time out of your busy tour schedule to do this guest post for me and a huge thank you to Dorothy at Pump Up Your Book for arranging all this.

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Your Family Constitution Review


Thank You to Tracee from Pump Up Your Book Promo for asking me if I would be interested in being part of the tour for Your Family Constitution.

This was a quick and interesting read. Within the first chapter I felt as though the book was about me and for me.

The book is about a day in Scott Gale’s family life that he refers to as the Black Sunday. On this particular day he and his family have bascially hit rock bottom. He realized shortly after that they his family needed a change. He set out to make a plan for this family change.

He came up with the family constitution. Similar to the idea of the American Constitution. At first it seemed to work but realized it wasn’t going to work so he decided that if this was going to work that he needed the input from the family. The managed to come up with something that would work and it did.

Scott included his family constitution at the end of the book for us the readers so we would know how to do it. If you think you can just take the short cut and use his he even explains to us the reader why you can’t just use his. He was smart to include that. You can try to copy his but will so realize that it won’t work for you and your family.

As parents we seem like we are always juggling alot of balls and always afraid that one will drop. We are juggling our kids, our personal needs and our careers. It always feels as though those balls get heavier all the time. It seems as though we have more and more commitments all the time and trying to find ways to make it all work.

I am a stay at home mom so I am not working but still I feel as though at times I was like Scott and I could actually relate to Scott. Not only are we the same age but are struggling with the same issues and concerns.

I always feel as though I am always doing the chores in the house and it gets frustrating because I feel as though its never appreciated. I have tried several times with Michael with helping with chores and rewarding him but I realized while I was reading the book that its not just about assigning chores and offering rewards but its about having house rules that everyone must respect.

Having house rules are important and in order for it to work you have to communicate with monthly and yearly meetings and get the input from your family. Change the things that don’t work.

The book is very simple and straight forward. Everything is laid out in a simply way so that its easy to refer back and forth. Scott also includes several comics and illustrations in the book that had a little humor to the book. I admit I was laughing throughout the book especially the one about BOB’s job description:

Little boy is talking to his parents and he asks:

You’re sure there is nothing in there about catering to our every whim….

Parents are over looking the papers and say:

Nope. I don’t see that anywhere in our job description.

I admit I am guilty of using that. Who isn’t?

If you are at your wits end and want peace in your house then I suggest this book for you. We are currently working on our own family constitution and I will keep you posted on the progress.

This book was provided for review by Tracee from Pump Up Your Book Promo and Scott Gale for sending the book.

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Your Family Constitution Blog Tour and Guest Post


TITLE: Your Family Constitution: A Modern Approach to Family Values & Household Structure

AUTHOR: Scott Gale

PUB DATE: January 15, 2010

ABOUT THE BOOK:

Your Family Constitution Helps Busy Parents to Create Manageable Family StructureJust in time… a formerly stressed-out dad’s perspective provides a common-sense playbook to reach family harmony. As today’s parents cope with scores of competing obligations and responsibilities, raising kids with good core values is an extreme challenge. Combine this perpetual struggle with the effects of technological distractions, societal lack of discipline, and failures to communicate, and it is not hard to understand why so many parents throw up their hands in defeat and accept mere survival.
Author Scott Gale refused to settle for chaos. Instead, he designed a powerful tool that allowed him to alleviate family challenges through the thoughtful application of clarity, consistency and commitment (the “3Cs”). Your Family Constitution tells his story and provides a step-by-step process that parents can follow to balance schedules and produce time they never before had, improve family communication, relieve pent-up frustration, and wrap healthy boundaries around core values; applying rewards, consequences and accountability standards to maintain them.
A stressed-out parent downloaded the first chapter and replied, “You are easy to read, easy to understand and easy to identify with. It seems that intentional parenting has gotten lost, and you’ve provided a blueprint for creating a family with positive family values, ideals and rules to live and grow by. So, thanks for your courage to detail your own experience and offer personal insights for the benefit of frustrated, busy and untrained parents.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Scott Gale is an author and instructor at University of California Irvine. His passion is helping families communicate and re-connect in spite of today’s hectic lifestyle and increased demands. Scott’s new book, “Your Family Constitution: A Modern Approach to Family Values and Household Structure,” inspires readers to increase togetherness and progressively improve by leveraging clarity, consistency and commitment.
For more information on his book or to learn how to create your customized Family Constitution visit: http://www.yourfamilyconstitution.com/ or e-mail: sgale@yourfamilyconstitution.com .

I have to send a big thank you to Scott for taking the time out of his busy schedule to do this guest post for me. Thank You Scott.

I asked Scott this question “Why Do Parents Accept Defeat?” and this is what Scott had to say about it.

As technology evolves and society accelerates at a staggering pace, parenting poses greater challenges than ever before. Many parents sacrifice their own time and sanity as they attempt to maneuver through the endless stream of obstacles to raising appreciative and well-grounded kids. Unfortunately, some parents yield to critical challenges, accepting defeat at the expense of their children’s well-being and their future.

So why is that? How can a loving parent “throw in the towel” on the most precious thing in their life? The individual answers lie somewhere between social phenomena, individual circumstance, and skewed priorities…but one universal reason prevails: “Raising good kids is really hard.”

It doesn’t matter what the definition of “good kid” means in that statement. Good values, sound work ethic, and outstanding health often top the list, but there are many other traits parents yearn to pass on. Regardless, parents today juggle so many competing priorities, that there is simply no way to get it all done. They want to be there for their kids whenever they can. They want to provide the best environment for their children and raise them to be exceptional adults. Unfortunately, when push comes to shove, something has to give.

It’s easy to burn away the hours at work, especially in current economic circumstances, because the boss expects it. Likewise, the television may serve as an affordable babysitter while mom or dad “catches up” around the house. Also, in the midst of perpetual chaos, the opportunity to escape the grind for personal re-charge may rank above a game of Candy Land with the little ones.

Are these excuses or failures? No. Work and personal space are two essentials ingredients to financial and emotional stability. In reality, they only become excuses if parents use these reasons to hide behind, instead striving for balance. Most parents contend that their family is the #1 priority in their life, yet they fall into patterns that directly contradict long-term family success. Crisis lurks as opportunities to improve are overlooked for more immediate purpose (i.e. sacrificing clarity and consistency to avoid discipline). “Fires” begin to burn without attention and eventually the ability to manage competing priorities becomes impossible.

Just when life seems like it couldn’t get any crazier, another emotional storm will inevitably work its way into the home. All of a sudden, the concept of defeat rears its ugly head. With no clear direction, boundaries cannot be effectively enforced and confusion ensues.

The acceptance of defeat is by no means conscious or intentional. Instead, too much effort becomes required to resolve constraints and problems. In the midst of an already busy lifestyle, the time for such focused effort does not readily exist. Problems compound as fires get hotter. In the end, the fabric of the family stands no chance against the flames of chaos.

So, what if you can see the fires, but you are ready to stand up and fight for your family? How can you unwind a downward spiral against such immense pressure? Try these steps:

-Understand what is important to you as a parent.
-Make time to resolve issues early.
-Focus on the problems that burn hottest and require the least amount of time and effort to fix.
-Create firm structure within the family.
-Cherish the time together and nurture bonds; after all, good relationships are at the essence of that #1 priority.

These are the steps that brought me and my family from unmitigated chaos to steady improvement and redemption. It took a lot of effort, but I’ve never understood myself or my family with such clarity as I do today.

If you would like more information on the steps you can take today to avoid eventual defeat, please visit www.yourfamilyconstitution.com.

Thanks again to Scott and Tracee for allowing me to be a part of this tour.

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